My name is Michele. Here is a summary of my story, and my question for you …

My husband had a one-night stand with a colleague and hid it from me for over a decade. I only discovered the truth by chance when someone else ‘let the cat out the bag’. Learning my husband had broken my trust, and had chosen to deliberately deceive me for years, has filled our relationship with absolute chaos. I keep on hearing that trust is a process – but how do I learn to trust again?

What a shock it must have been to discover this betrayal after so much time … and to uncover the truth in such a public way. I’m so sorry, Michele.

I’m assuming that both you and your husband want to reconcile, and to work on rebuilding the trust in your marriage. I’m also going to make the assumption…