How Secrets and Lies Affect a Partner

When trust has been shattered and you’re in a state of shock, you might not recognize the person you’ve become. The emotions are intense, and they’re unpredictable.

But you’re not a crazy person, and you haven’t lost your mind. These reactions are all normal when a trauma has occurred. In fact, you’ll likely experience many of the following:

• Being on a roller coaster of emotions (which is both frightening and wearing)
• Experiencing intense and negative feelings which suddenly bubble up, and spill over
• Scary, extreme and irrational thought patterns
• Unexpected, frightening – sometimes shocking – reactions
• The desire to make your partner pay for what they’ve done, and for all the pain they have caused
• Wanting absolutely nothing to do with your partner
• Suddenly wanting to have sex with your partner
• Being terrified of losing your partner
• Being afraid of facing a future without your partner
• Intense and irrational feelings…