Here are a few things I have learned in life:

1. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Awful things that you didn’t deserve. And there was nothing you could do to stop it happening.

2. You may think you know a person you love really well, but they may be hiding their true self from you. People can deceive us if they want to deceive us. They can cover up their tracks; they can conceal what’s in their heart.

3. We need to process the past, to make peace with the past. Repression and pretending only stop us moving on. We stay stuck in our trauma, and our silent suffering.

4. Letting go isn’t easy. You can go for therapy. You can try to feel the feelings. You can want to start again. But it’s never quite as easy as you’d hoped that it would be.

5. You need…