There following are essential for recovering from a trauma, and this includes recovering from betrayal trauma.

1. Recognizing that you are in a state of crisis. Admitting to yourself that you’ve been traumatized. This is a prerequisite for seeking help.
2. Recognizing that recovery lies in your hands. Others may sympathise, or even empathise. But at the end of the day, it is up to you to get the kind of help that will enable you to cope, and will help you to recover, and rebuild your life.
3. “Building a fence”. By that, we mean being able to distinguish between what is working in your life, and the things which need attention – and which need it urgently. (For example, figuring out the extent of your partner’s addiction, how long he’s been deceiving you, whether he’s serious about getting proper help, and what you need to feel safe in the…