Toxic shame is the feeling that you’re worthless at your core – so you deserve to be rejected, mistreated and ignored, despised and punished by the people in your life. These are damaging, erroneous beliefs.
Shame develops in response to being abused and unloved, especially by the people who are close to you.
Toxic shame often takes the following forms:
1. Feeling bad (utterly shameful) about something terrible that was done to you.
2. Feeling bad (utterly shameful) about choices and actions that belong to someone else. Here, the shame is “guilt by association” – even where the choices and behaviours have nothing at all to do with you.
3. Feeling stigmatized, or experiencing some form of prejudice, where you feel judged and less than other people. Here, the shame generally relates to feelings of inadequacy related to something beyond your control.
4. Experiencing shame in response to…
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