“Insanity is everyone expecting you not to fall apart when you find out everything you believed in was a lie.”  – Shannon L. Alder

The following are normal responses to betrayal:

1. Acting like a detective: You need to know the truth when you’ve been lied to and betrayed. So, it’s not uncommon for betrayed partners to look for further evidence of cheating by doing things like looking through phone bills and old bank and credit card statement; checking browser histories; going back through their partner or spouse’s emails, texts, or messages; looking to see what phone apps they have, and so on. Some even install tracking and monitoring software on their partner’s digital devices.

2. Experiencing a roller coaster of emotions: You might be seething with anger and rage atone moment … desolate, despairing and hopeless the next … and then full of love for your partner again…