“Sometimes it feels as if nothing is capable of killing the past.”

Psychologists will tell you there are no wrong feelings. We feel what we feel – and that is that! And if anyone tells you anything else, don’t fall into the trap of believing them.

So, what do we do about those pesky feelings that can feel so intense and overwhelming at times?

What are the things we might need to bear in mind?

1. First, ignore the lie which says that our feelings should be rational. Feelings have their source in our subconscious mind. And our subconscious mind knows exactly what it’s doing. It’s first, and main, goal is protecting us from harm. So, begin by showing some respect for your feelings. Don’t criticize them. Don’t demand that they make sense.

2. All your feelings are valid, and are worthy of acceptance. Also, it can help if…