“If love hurts, let it go.” You must have heard that statement a million times, or more.

And maybe they are right; but maybe they are wrong, as well.

It’s a major life decision, and a highly complex one. So take some time to process what you really want, and need.

And if he’s lied to you before, then you might reasonably think his words cannot be trusted, and it’s better if you go.

But love is complicated; and the roots can go down deep. And sometimes we decide that what we want most is tostay – despite the fact it’s scary, for the future is unclear.

So why might a partner decide to stay?

1. Most of us are shocked when we first learn about our spouse because we felt we had a great relationship with them. We were genuinely happy, and enjoyed their company. And…