I wonder if you ever struggle with that painful feeling … The feeling that you really don’t deserve to be loved.
And when we’re in that desperate place we often move to self-attack. We turn against ourselves and we recite the countless reasons why we ought to be rejected, disliked or even scorned.
But this self-attack is crazy on so many different levels.
It usually has no bearing in reality.
Also, it serves no useful purpose, and it scars and wounds us deeply as we turn against ourselves with loud, self-shaming accusations.
Why do we do it?
There is a voice inside our head that has been nurtured through the years by negative experiences that left their mark on us. The voices of our parents, or of cruel, unloving people, have gathered evidence that now feels hard to contradict. Words like:
“Nobody likes you.”
“No-one cares about you.”
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