What to Say when there’s Nothing to Say

Sometimes it feels as it there’s nothing you can say when someone you know or love is in a lot pain. So, what can you say when there’s nothing to say?

1. First, it’s important to understand that the person knows there’s nothing you … they … or anyone can do to change the situation they are in.

2. They don’t want, or need your, suggestions on how best to cope. Advice like this can sound simplistic, trite, unempathic, and even cold and hurtful.

3. They don’t want to be reminded of all the things they should be thankful for.

4. They don’t want to hear stories about people you know who have beaten the odds, or had a dramatic turn around, so that everything turns out well in the end.

5. They don’t want to be cajoled into positive thinking, or maintaining a positive attitude.

6. They want permission…