What Not to Say When Someone’s Going Through a Trauma

When someone is dealing with a heartache or trauma, there is nothing you can do to make the pain go away. Yes, you can be there for them, and can offer them your presence. And silent empathy can help them feel much less alone.

But there are things that people say that do not help the situation. That’s rarely their intention – for they usually want to help. But when we are in crisis, we are vulnerable and bleeding. Thus, you need to tread more carefully, and think about your words.

Things to avoid when someone’s dealing with a trauma include:

1. “I know how bad it is; the same thing happened to me.” Everyone’s experience is different and unique so you don’t really know what they are going through, at all. Also, the spotlight is on them, and their experience, right now. It isn’t about you…